Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Us and them
After all, we Bangalis are the chosen ones. Can any other language compass the thoughts of our greatest literary genius?
I grew up. My attitude changed. But not, alas, the Bangali mind-set. Not the sweeping dismissal of all other ethnicity as O-Bangali. Nor the loving epithets – Khotta, TNetul, Pnaiyya and of course the ubiquitous Maaru. Even today, ten years into the 21st century, the educated and supposedly liberal Bangali who prides himself on being a global citizen can be dismissive, even pejorative, about “other” Indians. Granted, this parochialism is not violent, nor even xenophobic in the manner of Maharashtra or Assam. The Bangali does not seem to support political organisation on the lines of linguistic identity. The “Amra Bangali” party has had some limited electoral success and entered a Legislative Assembly, but in Tripura, not in West Bengal. Yet in some sub-stratum of the general conscious, independent of “Proutist” ideology, there persists a nagging resentment of the O-Bangali. This is of course most frequently voiced against the ethnic group that seems to be the most prosperous, the Marwaris.
I cringe when I hear the term Maaru. Even when it is used in jest by one of my Marwari friends. Because they are paying the price for prosperity. The community is not new to Calcutta. A friend of mine – Calcutta born, mostly Calcutta educated, proud of his roots in Mymensingh – received his come-uppance in a conversation some years ago, when one of Calcutta’s best-known citizens mentioned gently “My family has lived in Calcutta since the 18th century. Perhaps in another hundred years we’ll be accepted as Bangali”. In another well-known and oft-vilified Marwari family, known for their proximity to a previous Chief Minister, the present generation studied Bangla and not Hindi as a second language; at home they converse in Bangla, a rule made by the patriarch 40 years ago. But of course, they are only Maarus. They waste their time making money and what is worse, they buy out the houses of old Bangali families instead of letting them live on in genteel poverty in their old decaying mansions. Most reprehensible.
What about the community whose very names most easily set them apart from the Dhars, Bhars and Bhattacharyas? One of Calcutta’s most visible and successful Anglo-Indians, son of a grand old man who has represented his community in the State Assembly and in Parliament, told me that his proudest achievement is not that he is known across 5 countries, but that he was at one time goalkeeper for Rajasthan Club on the Calcutta Maidan. Anjan Datta’s nostalgia on celluloid may harp on how they are different from the Bangali mainstream, but they are for the most part “simple fish-eating Bongs.’
Perhaps these attitudes do not intrude upon personal interactions. One of my closest friends from school is a Sikh. On 31st October 1984, after walking home through the disturbances, I called him to find out if his family was safe in their Gariahat home – five floors of burly Sardars perched above a petrol pump, terribly vulnerable to arsonists. Chuckling at my concern, he told me that their neighbours had taken it upon themselves to throw a cordon round their house until the trouble subsided. A heartening story, and one that supports my hypothesis that Bangali parochialism is rarely violent.
There is even a subtle distinction between the Calcuttan and the “other” whose roots lie upcountry. The Calcuttan used to be the most reluctant to leave his city, the most convinced that his life was best between Dum Dum and Garia, the one most likely to refuse an assignment in Purulia or Jalpaiguri. This was succinctly summed up by a colleague in the IPS when he said “WE are the real Bangalis, we have worked all over Bengal. YOU are only a Calcuttan.”
In one respect there still exists a disconnect that nobody will openly discuss. In my experience, this is more common among a previous generation and, strangely enough, more common on the city fringes, in the suburbs rather than the truly rural areas. The same “cultured”, supposedly educated Bangali who declaims the poetry of Kazi Nazrul Islam is perfectly capable of asking, “Is he Bangali or Mussulman?”
The wheel seems to have come full circle, though. A certain class of Bangali is most likely to deride paati Bangali attitudes and lampoon “Bong” stereotypes. Good or bad, they have positioned themselves outside the narrower Bangali identity in favour of one that is more pan-Indian. Is this a sign of growing cosmopolitanism?
(This was in the Bengal Post, where I am allowed to faff on any given Monday. And they pay me for it!)
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-- Richie
Interestingly, I've had Bengali friends living in Delhi all their lives (CR Park, where else) laying greater claim to 'Bangali-yana' with same argument of me being a Kolkata-an rather than a Bangali.
[Btw, I too used to believe in the literal divinity of the "Thakur" title, till I learned that Sharmila was also Tagore/Thakur, and she obviously wasn't godly.
incidentally, i too thought thakur meant they he was a god. caused a lot of confusion when i met real people and was was told they were related to him (because ofcourse people are introduced my who their great grandfather was)
The other is about my cousin brother who was born in Jharkhand (Bihar) and studied and works in Mumbai. We were watching a cricket match together where Sourav was having a torrid time. After some time my brother said 'Shala Bangali dubaa diyaa!":)Imagine the reaction of my staunchly Bengali Family :)))))
I am a Calcuttan, who spent the first 15 years of her life amidst a chaotic 'Modhyo Kolkata para' nestled among Gujju Mota bhais who had taken over every corner of the blind alley other than the three/four hapless Bangali baris. I learnt how to speak Hindi like a 'hindustani' from Masterji, who lived in a single room with his brood of three sons and a wife who forever remained behind her 'pallu, in the same alley .. I still remember my 'bhushiwala' Bihari neighbours who had an autistic son and right outside the alley was the beginning of a Mussalmaan para. Yet every Durga Puja, two neighbouring alleys would compete with 'disco' light and 'art-er thakur' but being from such a 'jawgakhichuri para' what I did miss out on in my erstwhile alley were Bangla 'abritti protijogita''bose anko protijogita''Bijoya Sammaloni' and 'Rabindra Jayanti' . When we moved and kept moving I came across the fiercely parochial Bangalis, who you speak so highly of, in CR Park and in a city in the Middle East and all that I had missed out in the name of being a Bangali earlier. And I often wondered, was it okay to be such an aberration, to be Bangali and not be parochial? And then I stumbled upon your 'pimped' post ...
So true what you say in your post. I have this huge gripe against the Bongs. You fail to mention how the the Bengalis call the rest of the Indians as "hindustanis"..not realizing that they are one too. I am sure proud to be a hindustani.
Good job!
Tania, loved your verse
Pondit Moshai, Sharmila could have been a nyaka debi
Anyesha, Probashi ? "Amon which number, good my lady, be ye one?
Vivek, so right. Stereotypes are never about accuracy.
PDot, you stand alone, out-topping knowledge
Sue, you can call people by any name that fits. And some that don't.
Rai Sorcar, "people are introduced by who their great-grandfather was' - that's a gem. But not limited to Bangalis.
J.A.P.
Eve's Lungs, and what were you before marriage?
Soma, like I said, you're kind. And post about your experience of Bangaliyana
Ani, identities of convenience?
J.A.P.
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